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Post by Angela on Apr 30, 2009 22:48:15 GMT -5
Fear of death is a universal thing. More people than not are afraid of dying and of death itself. What about death frightens you the most? Maria
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Post by angel71242 on May 1, 2009 8:23:36 GMT -5
The not being able to breathe.
The thought that maybe everything I've been taught may not be true.
Leaving my children behind.
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Post by angel71242 on May 1, 2009 8:38:51 GMT -5
As this is the Lawson Family Tragedy board, let me revise my last statement...by saying "leaving my children behind" I am in no way implying that I would want to take them with me!! I only mean I hate the thought of them no longer having a mother here on earth with them.
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Post by Brian on May 1, 2009 8:54:29 GMT -5
I don't fear death as much as I did when I was younger, and I think that's natural. What I remember fearing the most was being cold. It seems funny now. I never much liked the thought of being buried in the ground either. I still don't like the thought of being separated from friends and family and eventually being forgotten.
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Post by Angela on May 1, 2009 9:32:04 GMT -5
My main fear involving dying is the pain and like Angel said, not being able to breathe. As for fear of death which is after the dying i fear most not knowing where I'm going to go. From all I've ever heard there are only 3 options, 4 if you believe in re-incarnation which I do not:: 1. Heaven. 2. hell. 3. A state of non existence. If anywhere, I of course prefer heaven but my fear is that my faith is too weak, my sins too many and therefore I won't be allowed to go there.
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Post by debbie on May 4, 2009 6:58:52 GMT -5
Dying has always fascinated me in the sense of the unknown. I agree with Brian that as I grow older I seem to think more of the dying process and the fear that goes with it. These are the main reasons I fear dying. 1) Because of our attachments (our loved ones and friends). 2) Because of our fear of the unknown.(where will I go?) 3) Because it is a reality that we can neither escape or control. Another thing that was of interest to me is the dying process, which your body goes through many days before death comes. I included a link to explain the changes as death approaches. It really helped me understand more what my father and mother went through before they died. "The Journey Towards Death" dying.about.com/od/thedyingprocess/a/process.htm
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Post by Angela on May 4, 2009 7:10:09 GMT -5
Great link Vickie. The poem included is the same one Hosice gave me when my mother died. After the first time I read it and cried my heart out I was unable to bear reading it again for several years. Some of the stages listed in the article/link are some I remember my mother going through. Especially the refusing food and the sudden desire one day, actually the day before she died, of getting out of bed and saying how good she felt. 18 hours later she was dead. Maria
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Post by angel71242 on May 4, 2009 9:44:19 GMT -5
That was a very interesting link Vickie. Thanks for posting that.
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Post by smpyrtle on May 5, 2009 11:42:10 GMT -5
The thought of not being here some day is still frightening to me. As mentioned earlier we have no control over death and it is certainly coming. I find myself thinking about it more as I get older and I guess that's understandable. The link was helpful.
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Post by Angela on May 23, 2009 7:49:14 GMT -5
I can't phantom having no sense of awareness therefore I'm afraid of being aware that I'm in a cold dark grave all alone and that I can not see or hear or touch my loved ones, that I can't speak out or move, that I'm aware of being embalmed but can't stop it, and that my state of being like that is a permanent state. It's a total loss of power and control and that terrifies me.
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Post by smpyrtle on May 23, 2009 9:57:52 GMT -5
I feel the same way Maria. I think it's the loss of control that bothers me the most and not knowing what is coming. I just hope that what we go to is so much better that we will be so happy and wish we could have come sooner. I'm living in those hopes.
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Post by Angela on May 24, 2009 5:48:00 GMT -5
I live in that hope too Susan. If we ARE going somewhere else after death....a different place, a different dimension, a different state of being, if it's any worse than this life in this world or not any better, then why are we here on this plane of existence? Makes no sense, might as well pack it in and call it quits.
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Post by smpyrtle on May 24, 2009 15:01:09 GMT -5
Maria, I really hope it's not worse. This life is not so good sometimes. Some people have it so much worse than others and it's hard to understand. I try not to question why but it's hard not to sometimes. One thing for sure we'll certainly know someday.
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Post by angel71242 on May 24, 2009 21:58:40 GMT -5
I can't phantom having no sense of awareness therefore I'm afraid of being aware that I'm in a cold dark grave all alone and that I can not see or hear or touch my loved ones, that I can't speak out or move, that I'm aware of being embalmed but can't stop it, and that my state of being like that is a permanent state. It's a total loss of power and control and that terrifies me. And that's exactly why I want to be cremated!
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Post by Angela on May 25, 2009 4:55:51 GMT -5
If our awareness survives death then being cremated won't be any better because you'd be aware of being in the crematory burning for 3 hours and then you'd be aware that you were a pile of ashes. I really hope our awareness dies with the rest of us.
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